Marriage 101 (part 1)

As I promised, here’s the 1^st part…

Being a single and independent for several years until three months ago, I’ve encountered a lot more couples having trouble in their marriages than those who claim to be happily married. I got stuck with the idea that marriage is not a bed of roses but a headache. This had initially caused me fear to engage myself to a lifetime commitment. I thought I already knew a lot about handling relationships and resolving conflicts. Nobody would really know until it is experienced.  But one thing for sure is that, we don’t have to go through the same mistakes and failures that a lot of people get into if we are properly oriented and taught. Following are some important points we should consider before getting married.

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We should know what we are getting ourselves into. It isn’t a joke. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. 1828 Noah Webster Dictionary says marriage is a legal union, a contract by which the parties engage to live together in mutual affection and fidelity, till death shall separate them. It was instituted by God himself for the purpose of preventing the promiscuous intercourse of the sexes, for promoting domestic felicity, and for securing the maintenance and education of children.

The biblical definition describes marriage as the presence of God in two people’s lives to fulfill a God-given purpose of honoring Him and believing for God’s provision to be upon them. It is important to make Christ as the head and center of our marriage. The very first marriage took place in the Garden of Eden. God is the author of marriage.  Genesis 2 describes how God gave man a work and a purpose. The husband has to take care of the woman and make her beautiful or better just like how a gardener takes care of his garden. It’s also good to know that God prepared the garden and gave everything Adam & Eve would need before He created them which depicts God’s provision.  Husband & wife are God’s gifts to each other.

{To be continued…}

I'm back!

It’s nice to be back to my blogging business.  A lot of things happened-new programs here and there at work, new officemates, new friends, activities… and finally a new “status” . J   Yes, you guessed it right - new civil status and surname. J

But what made me decide to get back to blogging?  It is because of the information overload I’m getting from all the seminars we are attending about marriage.  I really wanted to share all these info that I think will really help a lot of couples in their marriages. I’m blessed to have been able to attend orientations and seminars like these to prepare us in facing this new adventure in our lives.  I remember my mom telling me, nobody told them how to raise a family. They just learned it in the process and it was not easy.  I’m blessed to be part of a church where I can learn a lot from married couples without going through similar difficult experiences in order to learn.  I realized, one area a person has a lot of issues with in this life is relationship especially in the family, let alone failed marriages and divorce.

So, dear readers hold your horses and hope you will learn a lot in here.

 

 

Choices, choices, choices...

 

We all make choices every day. Some choices are a matter of life and death. A lot of the

choices we make usually affect  our future. It is therefore crucial to think twice or thrice

before making decisions. Take risks but consider a lot of things first. Think about your

family. Think about the people around you. Think about your future. Think about the next

generation. How you make choices today defines who you are and determines your future.

 

Make the right choice! Do the right thing!