When To Say Goodbye To Your Husband Or Boyfriend?

Oooops… Don’t get me wrong, please. Let me just tell you that I believe in the sanctity and covenant of marriage.

But honestly, at one point in my life I thought divorce was a good idea. This occurred to me when unhappy married couples left and right had too many stories to tell which made me agree that divorce was the ultimate solution.

I had a friend whose dad was womanizing and another acquaintance that used to have bruises due to her husband’s beatings. Believe it or not we had a family friend whose family was broken because it was found out that he was having an affair with another man. Yes, another man… Then another friend of mine who was like an older sister to me has been married for several years now with 2 wonderful kids. She eventually got involved with another married man. She never listened to our pieces of unsolicited advice. The relationship grew strong and went stronger when she found out that her husband has a child with another woman. His child was older than his 2 legitimate kids. Sad stories…

Having this exposure, I came up with my own “grounds” for possible divorce once I’m married. First, I’m going to leave my husband (or bf) at once when he beats me…even if it happened once. No way! Another is when I catch him having an affair with another woman. Lastly, when he’s having an affair with another man. Makes sense isn’t it?

But I’ve also thought of ways on how to keep this from happening. Single ladies, you may want to take note of these. That old cliché that says prevention is better than cure still works. I’ve got two. Get to know your suitors well including his family. Be a keen observer, use your intuition (woman’s gift I guess) and look for these 3 signs before giving your sweet “yes” and “I do’s”.